Sexual Orientation 

Sexual orientation refers to who one is physically or emotionally attracted to.  You do not have to be sexually active in order to have a sexual orientation.  It is also important to say that sexual orientation is not a diagnosis.  Often what causes most distress in not the realisation that they are not heterosexual, but the potential judgement they may receive from others if they come out.  Many people who are in the process of discovering their sexual identity can experience fear that they will receive judgement, and even verbal and physical assaults from others, all of which can have an impact on self-esteem and identity formation.   Having a safe space to talk through feelings around the coming out process can be helpful and reduce feelings of isolation.

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It's a Process

The process of 'coming out' never really ends. Initially the process begins with friends or a close family member such as a sibling or a cousin, and then parents.  As a person's social network expands, such as entering university or making  a new friend, 'coming out' happens again.  There are times when people choose not to disclose their sexual orientation because it may not feel relevant, such as at work, but this can create other feelings.  This is why being a part of the LGBTQIA community and attending safe spaces such as community centers can be so helpful.  Connecting with others that have gone through whatever it is you are facing reenforces that you are not alone.  

A Safe Space to Talk

​Not everyone in the LGBTQIA community needs therapy when coming out, some find that their friends are supportive and loving and their parents to be accepting.  It should also be said that those that do seek therapy don't necessarily need to talk about their sexuality, but instead have already come out and are now dealing with different concerns. Whatever your sexual identity you deserve to be in a space that is  non judgmental, safe and where you can be your true self.